Couples Therapy

It was perfect… for a while.

You had a hot partner with a picture-perfect smile! Whew! Irresistible!

The honeymoon phase seemed to last forever. The attentiveness, admiration, fun dates, and long chats were all there.

Finally, you could tell friends and family you had found “the one.”

It was you two against the world!

Of course, there were the occasional “glitches.”

And everything was going so well that you didn’t think they were a big deal.

It started with less frequent conversations but then became frequent fights over small things.

You’d try to agree for the fights to stop, but a new one would ensue. You may or may not feel gaslit.

It began to feel like you weren’t a priority for your partner any longer. The dates lessened, and the attentiveness was a thing of the past.

You share your perspective, and your partner hears you and agrees to change. You feel so much better that you spoke your mind, but 24 hours pass, and it is the SAME FREAKIN’ BEHAVIOR.

You become hypersensitive to tone, behavior, and text messages. How do you get off the hamster wheel?!

Well, it is at the point where you either decide as a couple to power through it and figure out how to heal and repair the relationship or how to end it amicably.

Fairytales are for kids.

The daily grind isn’t a coffee place. It’s that everyday bustle that wears on a relationship. The excitement starts to vanish, and your “doing life” together becomes a predictable wash-rinse-repeat routine.

When that happens, the “tiny things” get under your skin. You hear their car pull up in the driveway. Instead of running to the door to greet them, you think, “Here we go again.”

The time spent together that you once longed for becomes more rare.

As time passes, you’re no longer “present” with each other; being emotionally unavailable is just easier.

And most all of this is served with a side of resentment!

Cookie-cutter couples therapy is BORING.

Sit beside each other each week, pour your soul into each other, and get sent home with feedback on your communication.

You show up to the next session and act like you have grown or used the skills, but they just don’t work. If you’re honest, you feel judged by your therapist or are told to “push through.” It feels like a waste of time.

Plus, it doesn’t work.

It does not allow you to get back to how things used to be or improve and be better.

Why not? Because it does not allow you to focus on your personal goals or feel free enough to express what is needed for proper healing. Some therapists are so stuck in textbooks that they forget that humans come with extra baggage. Other therapists don’t consider the additional toppings when they make their pizzas… they are just used to preparing pepperoni pizza.

Would you prefer Little Caesars or a gourmet, freshly made, customizable pizza?!

Here’s what we’ll do to put your relationship back on track…

I appreciate how you and your partner are unique, so we’ll make your therapy experience one that works for YOU.

We will discuss your unique relationship and what you each need to feel secure and happy. We will discuss each person’s perspective on varied issues and work through what comes up if the other person’s opinions aren’t necessarily “true” for you.

You will be provided with tools to learn how to lean in, turn toward each other, and effectively meet your needs as a couple. We will build you up FIRST before we focus on repairing wrongdoings or traumas.

As your therapist, I aim to help you both feel like a strong team. I won’t disclose my tips/tricks, but we will develop goals at the beginning of our time together and adjust as needed. You will learn to share concerns and feedback and ask for what you need.

Your memories of the perfect partner will no longer feel like a thing of the past. You will find comfort in your partner and enjoy time together, just like you used to… maybe even more!

Your partnership will return and feel stronger and more secure. You will learn to notice the cues before “glitches” even happen and have tools to use to keep things from impacting your relationship.

Confidence in your partnership is tey when working with me. Want your partner, lover, and friend back? Call me today for a free consultation.

Think of this as a new adventure with your partner…

You might wonder whether your relationship is doomed. Well, it depends on how motivated you are to make this work.

If you really want your relationship to heal, I can tell you that you’re in the right place and doing the right thing by asking for help.

Whether you’re dating, engaged, or married, you and your partner are welcome here. Come as you are!

You’ve read the books and sought advice. Now, do something that’ll work!

Progress is possible… you just have to reach out. Reach out for your free consultation at (615) 437-7191.